By Peter Minkoff
The pursuit of happiness has become an integral part of modern life. However, as much as people try to reach that goal and find happiness it seems that most are just left stressed and anxious. Why is happiness proving to be so elusive? Some research suggests that the problem might be in the way people define it and try to reach it. According to psychology, happiness is not about achievement but finding meaning. If you want to bring happiness to your everyday life and work towards that ultimate goal try these simple steps and let us know how it works out.
Do something nice for yourself
Everyday life is so full of things we have to attend to. Those days when you forget about yourself and just think about your chores come around too often. To bring happiness to your life, you don’t have to spend a lot of money. Or do something extravagant, you just have to make some time for yourself. Doing even the smallest thing that you enjoy will make you feel instantly better. And every time you do something like that you are making it easier to remember doing the next little gesture you will appreciate. You can prepare your favorite meal, listen to your favorite song, or just have a cup of coffee without turning your attention to something else.
Do something nice for someone else’s happiness
Doing something nice for yourself doesn’t have to be the end of it. If you take time from your schedule to do something for someone else you will not only help another person. You’ll make them feel happier but it will also have a positive effect on you. Seeing the face of the person you’ve helped perk up or imagining the positive effect of your action will make you feel happier and like your life has more meaning. Helping someone can come in a form of a simple gesture like holding the door for them. Or letting a stranger know their bag is unzipped or it can come in a form of donating money or time on a worthy cause.
Build meaningful relationships
Having a meaningful and intimate relationship with someone brings a lot of happiness and comfort to one’s life. Simply having a partner doesn’t necessarily mean having a satisfying relationship. To bring happiness to your life, you should evaluate your relationships and work on improving them. It can be especially difficult to know where you stand when you are in a long distance relationship. But taking time to talk to your partner and decide if you are in or out will make all the difference. It’s also important to note that having a meaningful relationship doesn’t always have to be with a sexual partner you can also have strong relationships that are a source of support and happiness with friends and family.
Spend time in nature = instant happiness
Living in a city means being surrounded by distractions 24 hours a day and not focusing on what really matters. Even those with strongest wills will succumb to temptation when they are constantly surrounded by it. When you spend time in nature you can relax and think about your life, values, and goals without your attention being scattered all over the place. Stepping into the wild will actually make you calmer and in that way getting in touch with nature will help you get in touch with yourself. You can take a hike through a forest or simply spend your lunch hour in a park. Any time spent in nature will have an impact on your well-being and happiness.
Yoga is an ancient practice that is in equal parts spiritual and physical and so it brings happiness to those who practice it in two distinct ways. As a physical activity, it requires a lot of strength and focus. It is strenuous and has all the benefits of doing any other physical activity but that is just one part of its benefits. Yoga promotes attention to the present and your sensations and in that way leads to mindfulness. Paying close attention to your experiences, feelings, and thoughts will help you find meaning and joy in everyday life and bring you a step closer to a more fulfilled life and happiness.
Peter is a parenting and lifestyle writer for Voice Boks magazine.
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